I have been battling with this most of my life.Expectations, or rather the expectations that other people have of me. The unquestionable and ultimate answer to these is: FUCK 'EM, they are not mine. This holds true for my employer, my family as well as my friends.
I have for a long time worked on actually pleasing other people, but ultimately there is just no pleasing everyone all the time, so if you satisfy one person, at the same time you'll disappoint someone else. My question then is, why bother at all? And the only possible answer is, just don't bother. Ultimately what most expect of you is things they fail at themselves, so why should you have to live to a standard that they cannot satisfy themselves?
No really there is just no way to keep on doing it like this. All that matters at the end of the day is what makes sense to me, no matter what someone else may come to think of me. In the end, the only one who can truly judge me, will be me, so no it's time to stop bothering with the others, and just focus on myself, and my motto is do whatever I like, as long as I don't intentionally harm someone else.
Or to use Ben Harper's word: "Take me as I am, or leave me the way you found me!"